being found by love

Firstly allowing love to find you is a real thing 

And also people need to understand that people in abusive relationships whether it's emotional or physical need to realize that they being abused in their own, so just show your love and support and that will give them the strength to leave.

I am writing this post today not as a victim but a survivor of emotional abuse, today marks 10 months of being free from that, it took so much leaving that relationship bit I'm glad I did because I would have lost a whole lot more.
 
Both females and males need to note that 
Manipulation 
Gaslighting 
And having your concerns dismissed, is toxic and abusive, you are allowed to express yourself and your concerns must be dealt with.

Anyway this is my story of how love found me and not my survival 

God has granted me another chance at love, pure love at that, when I had met my current partner, the love of my life, I had not fully healed from my previous relationship, but it worked out, so sometimes you need a helping hand in healing because this man has taught me a lot, he has uncovered even things I didn't know about myself 

This man loves me, always ready to hear me out and understand my concerns and where they sterm from, we have our differences and our arguments, what we have might not be perfect but I'd rather be here, cause here I am understood, here my feelings and concerns matter, here my love reciprocated, here if I'm not feeling well then a solution must be found, whether I'm feeling down or physically sick, 

Love has indeed found me

To the love of my life Kopano Monaheng thank you for showing me that love still exists, this has been the greatest 9months of my life with you ♥ 

May God keep you for me and grant you all the desired of your heart 

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